Nurturing Connections: A Lesson from Plants

We all know that plants need water. But sometimes, just looking at the soil isn’t enough to tell if it’s dry. It may appear dark and moist, but to know for sure, we have to get close and feel it.

The same goes for the people around us.

Checking In: “Feeling the Dirt”

Sometimes, we can’t tell if someone is struggling just by looking at them. In today’s world, it’s easy to put on a “game face” and stay busy enough to appear like we have everything together. But real connection requires more than surface-level observations.

So, how do we “feel the dirt” in our relationships? How do we know when a friend might need some “watering” or care?

Here are a few simple ways to check in:
-Send a funny meme or an inside joke—small gestures build connection.
-A simple “Hey, I’m thinking of you” can mean a lot.
-Go a step deeper: “Hey, it’s been a while since we really talked—how are things?”

These small moments of care help nourish our relationships, just like water helps a plant grow.

The Importance of Sunlight: Self-Talk and Growth

Just as plants need sunlight to thrive, we need warmth and light in our own lives. And that starts with how we treat ourselves.

The way we talk to ourselves often becomes the way we talk to others—especially in our more raw moments.

Imagine this scenario:
🌿 You’re running late, and your inner voice says, “Why can’t I be on time? What kind of life coach isn’t on time? I should have done X, Y, and Z perfectly.” This leads to frustration and shame.
🌿 Then, when your daughter is running late, you snap: “You’ve been done with breakfast for 15 minutes—what have you been doing?! Now we’re going to be late!”
🌿 Now, she feels ashamed too.

But what if you changed that inner dialogue?

Instead of self-criticism, try: “Yes, I’m late, but that doesn’t make me unacceptable. How can I make it up to the person I’m meeting?”

With this mindset, your response to your daughter shifts as well:
🌞 “How can I help you?” instead of frustration.

When we show ourselves grace, we extend that same grace to others.

Tending to the Garden of Our Relationships

Our relationships add so much depth and fulfillment to life. By being intentional—checking in, offering kindness, and practicing self-compassion—we create meaningful connections that can truly flourish.

💭 What are some ways you nurture the relationships in your life? We’d love to hear from you! Let’s grow together. 🌿✨